I have always contemplated whether I should let known my opinion on this topic. It’s so cynical and batty of me to say. People will shun me for saying it, at which point I’m sure I’ll go bury myself in a corner and sniffle while eating a barrel of ice cream and butterbeer.
But fuck it all, I’m just going to say it:
It annoys me when people say “I love you.”
Now I love love. I love ice cream. I love chicken. I love yellow. Miyazaki. Meet The Robinsons. Bad Harry Potter jokes. Organic chemistry. Pocahontas. Johnny Depp. Turtles. Moon and stars. Fuzzy blankets. Rafting. Snoopy. Nerdy superhero flicks. Friends. Family. ❤
I hate carrots, cilantro, squalling little children, physics, spiders, that ass of a professor who gave me a C in his class, I hate him more than Harry hated Snape…
However, it makes me very uncomfortable when people say “I love you” so carelessly to people that they only just met. Or even to those people that they don’t even like. It just comes off as shallow and disingenuous, and this expression has become so commercialized and overused to the point that it’s lost its magic. And I wonder: is that really okay? Is it right to spit out “I love you” as flippantly people do nowadays?
Every day, I hear people calling “Love ya!” as they cross the street, or jump out from a neighbor’s car. I hear high schoolers saying, “Oh, I love you~” in that patronizing tone that clearly suggests otherwise. I hear people saying “I love you” to those that they only just met in order to come off as approachable and friendly. I even see friends posting “I love so-and-so!” on their Facebook status when I know for a fact they don’t mean it.
Now I don’t object to people saying these words. After all, we say “I love you” to become close to others that we are perhaps not as familiar with. However, such good intents become so easily lost when we use these words as a cop-out approach to maintain a shallow friendship. There’s nothing wrong with trying to hold onto a relationship, but doing so through a lie so great as “I love you” should never fly. Because that’s the point when this beautiful expression changes from one of pure sincerity to one of motive-driven duplicity, and it becomes something tinged with something darker.
This argument sounds rather severe, and I truly don’t mean to make it out as though people are innately rotten when they’re saying I love you. But such immortal words should never be used so lightly in everyday exchanges when one doesn’t mean or feel it, and I firmly stand by that.
“The pen is mightier than the sword.”
Yes! Words have power not only over our thoughts, but also on our emotions.
As we continue to throw words around flippantly and continue to make light of them, the gravity of expressions such as “I love you” will be whittled away to nothing, and our emotions will likewise descend into shallow apathy to match. So let’s think about what we are saying when we say them. Let’s actually feel what we say instead of letting hollow, empty words slip from our lips without feeling or intent. Now if we don’t actually feel what we say, then just don’t say them! Simple as that.
UPDATE: A quick congratulatory shout-out to celebrate the recent Supreme Court decision 😉